The way your love life has taken a beating might have made you question whether the first love you had for each other that may have seemed stronger than that of Romeo and Juliet was really love at all. The phase is quite unexpected but happens to the best of them. Feelings do have a shorter shelf life although that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road where marriage is concerned. The decision made in respect to this may chart the course of a relationship to either build up or let go of each other all together. Most people would leave out of the false belief that the love is gone not knowing that love life has just begun. There is a huge chance of getting that conclusion challenged in counselling as well as getting a new lease as far as marriage life is concerned.
What couple counselling seeks to do is to bring back the one-ness of a couple. An opportunity to tell the love story as it were before is offered to the couple. Quite often than not the whole experience is exciting since good memories spring up. A chance is then given for them to illustrate how the situation got so dire. It allows for a plan as to how the whole counselling will be approached and in a customized way at that . There is the part of identifying the endgame of what they would like their marriage to be and with that information on the table, the therapist has all the tools they need to facilitate the healing process.
The next stop is enhancing conflict resolution measures. Problems are magnified where lack of equally problematic ways are used to go about them. Pointing fingers has never once been a solution and are better off replaced with more effective solutions. Better courses of action in the face of problems that arise is what counselling seeks to help couples achieve. Tolerance, forgiveness and trust are built this way. Affairs and other deep seated issues may cause people to close off and become -unresponsive but with amicable resolution measures in place one-ness, intimacy , respect and trust can gradually be restored.
Hard as it may be to accept not all relationships are built to last . The amount of pain and hurt in them might make it much harder to reconcile them. It would be in their very best interest to take the decision to go their own way. Still even in this circumstances counselling is of utmost importance. It helps in the process of letting go of past wounds and allowing for forgiveness. This way they will be no bad blood between the people even as they each take their different ways.